Body Compassion Collective
You've spent years trying to discipline
your way into self-love.
What if the only thing you need to stop is the performance?
with Marla Mervis Hartmann
The pattern is familiar. Discipline during the day: measured portions, "good" choices, control. And then at night, alone, eating standing at the counter. Not because of hunger, but because there's so much being held that food is the only place to put it down.
The list of what's been tried is long: keto, macros, intuitive eating, therapy, mindset work. Intellectually, the body isn't the problem. But in the mirror, the criticism is instant, automatic, relentless.
There's success in other areas. Leading teams, closing deals, showing up for everyone. But when it comes to the body, it still feels like failing at being a woman.
And here's what doesn't get said out loud: the fear that this is just how it is. That life will be spent performing confidence while quietly hating what's reflected back.
Eat an entire sleeve of cookies when you’re not even hungry.
No matter what the number is on the scale it never brings peace.
Too embarrassed about your belly to remove your shirt during sex.
Terrified your "bad behaviors" with your food and body will pass onto your children.
Swearing to give up eating sugar only to be drinking a mocha whip latte an hour later.
Afraid you will always feel awful when you look in the mirror
Obsess Obsess Obsess about what you look like.
Force yourself to go to the gym when all you really need to nap
THE PROBLEM ISN'T YOUR BODY
It's how you've been taught to treat it.
The problem isn't your body. It isn't your willpower. It isn't that you lack discipline.
The problem is that you've been taught to treat your body like an enemy that needs to be controlled, instead of a home you get to live in.
And when you approach your body with shame, discipline, and punishment, your body responds the only way it knows how: by fighting back.
Body Compassion Collective teaches you a different way. Not another diet. Not another protocol. A way to move from shame to compassion, from control to trust, from performing to actually living in your body.
This isn't about learning to love your body someday when it looks different. This is about learning to be in your body now, exactly as it is, and discovering that the moment you stop fighting it, everything shifts.
Small, compassionate actions — not willpower or discipline — are what actually change your relationship with food, with your body, with yourself.
Self-Compassion doesn't mean you are Giving up.
It means you are giving up binge-eating, body shaming, emotional eating and negative self-talk.
Inside Body Compassion Collective, you'll learn:
BCC is different from other solutions. It doesn’t focus on getting your body to a certain weight so you can feel confidence. It uses 3 powerful tools that will change how you feel about yourself and how you take care of yourself. If you commit to these tools, It will change your behaviors with food and dramatically increase levels of joy.
COMPASSION
The Compassion Reset — A 3-minute somatic practice that stops shame spirals before they take you under. No journaling, no affirmations. Just your body, your breath, and the return to center. You'll learn how to recognize when shame is hijacking your food choices and how to regulate it in real time.
CONFIDENCE
The Confidence Calibration — Confidence isn't something you build by losing weight. It's something you reclaim by stopping the performance. You'll learn how to stand in your body as it is right now, not as a "work in progress," but as a woman who takes up space, speaks her truth, and stops apologizing for existing.
CURIOSITY
The Curiosity Activation — Judgment keeps you stuck. Curiosity sets you free. You'll learn how to get curious about your patterns without collapsing into shame: Why do I reach for food when I'm not hungry? What am I actually trying to soothe? What would it feel like to not need to fix this?
"For the first time in my life, after years of on and off therapy, we got to the roots of the disorders rather than simply focusing on 'fixing' behaviours. I now feel I understand myself much better and learned that self compassion is always the answer." - Client Elena
MEET MARLA
Hi. I’m Marla Mervis-Hartmann.
For years, I did everything "right": over-exercising, under-eating, restricting, controlling. I thought if I could just discipline my body into submission, I'd finally feel at peace.
One day I stood on the scale and saw the lowest number I'd ever seen. I was the thinnest I'd ever
been. And I was miserable.
Being thin was never going to make me happy. The problem wasn't my body — it was the
performance. The performance of discipline, of control, of "having it all together."
When I stopped performing, everything shifted. Not because I "fixed" myself, but because I
finally gave myself permission to stop trying to.
Now I teach other women how to do the same. I don't fix you. I don't save you. I show you where
you've been giving your power away, and I teach you how to take it back.
The body you've been fighting? She's been waiting for you to come home.
Hi. I’m Marla Mervis-Hartmann.
WITHOUT BODY COMPASSION COLLECTIVE
GIFTS OF BODY COMPASSION COLLECTIVE
Constantly comparing yourself to others wishing your body looked like ‘hers’.
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Afraid that everything you eat will make you fat.
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Avoid social gatherings because you don’t like the way you look.
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Use food to deal with stress.
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Force yourself to diet and end up binge-eating.
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Hate what you see in the mirror .
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Worried you will pass your body insecurities onto your kids.
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Love my body the way it is now.
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Feel Confident in the skin you are in.
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Experience great sex with the lights on.
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Look in the mirror and like what you see.
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Enjoy dinner with friends without fear of what you eat.
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Quiet the mean girl that lives in your head.
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Walk into a room full of confidence.
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WHO THIS IS FOR?
Body Compassion Collective is for you if you're done white-knuckling your food, done performing discipline, done waiting to "be ready." If you're willing to take full responsibility for your healing and you're resourced enough (emotionally, financially, energetically) to do this work without needing me to prove it works first.
This is not for you if you're looking for a weight-loss program (this isn't that), if you're expecting me to fix you while you stay passive, if you're in active crisis or have a diagnosed eating disorder that requires
clinical support (please get that first — I'll be here when you're ready), or if you're still hoping that finding the "right" method means you won't have to do the emotional work.
If you're still reading, you're ready.
WHAT DO YOU LEARN IN
The BODY COMPASSION COLLECTIVE ?
The Body Compassion Collective is a supportive journey teaching you how to have freedom with food, body confidence & experience more compassion in your life.
These changes will make positive changes in all aspects of your life.
What You Get Inside Body Compassion Collective:
Module for Freedom with Food
Learn how to listen to what your body really wants to eat.
Stop the dieting, restricting and binging cycle.
Enjoy food without fear of getting fat.
Learn how to commit to your food choices.
Module for Body Confidence
Learn how to stand in your beauty and authentic power.
Gain body confidence without losing a pound
Find bliss and sensual power in your body.
Stop fighting your body and hating what you see in the mirror
Module for Living Gracefully
Access your innate wisdom to bring more tenderness into your life.
Learn how to Stop obsessing about your body and find deeper connections in all your relationships
Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
Module for Compassion
Become your own Best Friend
Find solutions to slow down and care for yourself
Train your compassion Muscle
Learn how to stop being hard on yourself
Module for Self-Talk
Learn how to appreciate yourself
Rejoice in your own power
Find ways to acknowledge yourself
Stop negative self-talk for good
BONUS Movement Module from my Pleasure Plan Course
You can seek Pleasure instead of Pain. Not sure how to do that? I can help. The truth is…you are hardwired to be motivated by pain. It motivates you to change. Yet, there’s another way. You can be motivated by pleasure. Enjoy this Pleasure Movement Practice to learn how.
BONUS Daily-Reiki
Everyday,for 30 days, I will send long distance Reiki. EVERYDAY, you can relax knowing that I have your back; supporting you energetically to heal.
Reiki can feel like magic. All of a sudden the blockage melts away, the problem finds its solution, and pain is replaced with relief. Stress turns into grace and ease, and Love (especially self-love!) is discovered and renewed. In my 16 years of practicing and teaching Reiki, I have found that to be the case for me.
BONUS Daily-Reiki
Everyday,for 30 days, I will send long distance Reiki. EVERYDAY, you can relax knowing that I have your back; supporting you energetically to heal.
Reiki can feel like magic. All of a sudden the blockage melts away, the problem finds its solution, and pain is replaced with relief. Stress turns into grace and ease, and Love (especially self-love!) is discovered and renewed. In my 16 years of practicing and teaching Reiki, I have found that to be the case for me.
FAQ
exercising and fighting to control your food cravings because you think that when you hit your goal number on the scale you’ll be happy with yourself – this is
for you. This program is for you if you are done struggling and don’t know how to let go of the struggle.
Body Compassion Collective is for you if you want to learn how to find more self-acceptance, joy and compassion.